👨‍👦 Dad Mode
// For ADHD dads

The hardest job
you do every day.

Five tools built for the specific reality of parenting with an ADHD brain. The mornings, the guilt, the moments worth remembering, and the things your kids need to know.

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Morning Armour
Two minutes before the chaos. Set your intention for the school run before it sets you.
The Patience Reset
Lost it at drop-off? The guilt spiral stops here. A fast reframe for 9am.
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Zero Noise Dad
Capture the moments you were fully present. Your ADHD brain will forget them. This won't.
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The Mirror
When you see yourself in your child. Gentle tools for the parent who knows what the noise feels like from the inside.
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The Letter
A private, ongoing letter to your children. The things you want them to know. Never sent - just held.
Morning Armour
🛡️ Morning
Before it begins -
how's the noise?
Rate yourself before the morning rates you.
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Starting to feel the pull
CalmAlready overwhelmed
What's the hardest
moment this morning?
Breakfast chaos? Getting shoes on? The car? Name the one that gets you.
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Breakfast chaos
Everyone wants something different, nothing is where it should be
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Getting them ready
Shoes, bags, coats - the daily battle of getting out the door
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Someone melts down
Irrational, loud, right when you have no capacity for it
The time pressure
Running late, watching the clock, everyone slowing down
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All of the above
It's just the whole thing
Building your
morning armour…
The Patience Reset
↺ Reset
The morning was
hard. What happened?
No judgment here. Just name it. Naming it is the first step out of it.
How heavy is
the guilt right now?
You care. That's why it hurts. But guilt is just cortisol you can't afford.
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Carrying it
Already letting goCan't shake it
Cutting through
the guilt spiral…
Zero Noise Dad
🎣 Moments
The moments worth
remembering.
Your ADHD brain will file these under noise and lose them. Capture them here. Read them back on hard days.
Capture a moment
No moments saved yet.
The first one will be the hardest to write.
Start small.
The Mirror
🪞 Mirror
You recognise
something in them.
What are you seeing? The thing that looks familiar - because you lived it too.
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Can't switch the noise off
Internal thoughts racing. Looks distracted but it's deeper than that.
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Struggling to regulate emotions
Big reactions to small things. Feelings that overwhelm them suddenly.
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Performing - but at a cost
Doing well on the outside. Something feels like it's building underneath.
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Brilliant starter, hard finisher
Lights up at the beginning. Loses momentum before the end.
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Carrying too much
Taking on everyone's problems. Finds it hard to let things go.
What do you most want
them to feel instead?
The thing you wish someone had given you. The thing that would have changed everything.
Building your guide
from the inside out…
The Letter
✉️ Letter
To your
children.
The things you want them to know. Not a to-do list. Not advice. Just truth - from a father who wishes he'd heard it earlier. Private. Never sent. Just held here for when you need it, or they do.
"There is nothing wrong with your brain. You are not broken. You are different - and different is where all the interesting people live."
Dear boys,
Your letter begins with the first thing
you write. Start anywhere.